I was having a conversation with someone recently along the lines of how some guys say when they saw their wife-to-be, they KNEW she was “The One” and I remember saying, “Hmm, I wonder if my guy will see me and say that about me.” I don’t know what it’s called though. Is it love at first sight? Can it be described as what happened to Adam in the Bible when he saw Eve and said “This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.”? Or is just a coincidence that he thought/said it and it happened? Clearly, we’ve all met people who we were instantly attracted to (Side Note: They say it takes four seconds to decide if you’re attracted to someone. I say it’s more like two. Lol. ) and with who we thought, even if for a second, that a relationship might be great based solely on their looks – yes, shallow, but I’m sure it’s happened to you too :p Then after having a conversation with them and realizing that their looks match their personality, your hopes are raised even more cos when that isn’t the case, their “fineness” goes out the window! Lol.
But what is it about meeting someone for the first time and thinking “This. Is. It”??? How does that work? What is it based on? Surely, it can’t be based on just looks but since you haven’t had a chat with the person yet, how do you decide the person is “The One”? I just thought of a theory on how this might work. I’ll use the guys as an example because they are usually the ones who say “When I saw my wife, I knew she was my wife.” My theory for SOME not all guys is that maybe when they met her, they were at THAT point in their life where they had decided it was time to settle down. You know they say that when a guy wakes up and decides it’s time to get married (and he usually isn’t dating anyone at the time), he usually marries the next correct girl that comes along. I also hear that for guys, it’s not usually about the mushy, soul mate stuff that women focus on when picking their spouse. I hear guys just ask questions like “Am I financially ready?”, “Is she a good girl?”, “Can she cook?”, etc. and if the majority of the boxes are checked, they marry her (This isn't to say women don't ask questions either but the point is, from what I've heard, it not as emotional a process for guys as it is for women). So, when a guy is at THAT point in his life, he makes the next available, or even unavailable at the time, correct girl “The One” in his mind and goes after her. Hehe. Do you guys agree with this theory?
The other theory is that it’s just a JE NE SAIS QUOI thing where they lock eyes and instantly he just knows deep down in his spirit because he gets an indescribable feeling about her.
Well, whichever theory is right, I really like the idea that someone would see me and say, maybe not directly to me as I’ve heard some guys have done but to his friends, something like “I’m going to marry that girl” or “That’s my wife, she just doesn’t know it yet.” Hehehehe!
Although, lemme just say as they say, “talk is cheap”, so even if he says it, he’s gonna have to do the work to prove that he really feels that way cos some guys think it’s enough to just say it. The guy who thinks that would be on a long thing!
What do y’all think? If you’re married and you saw your wife and knew she was “The One”, how did you know? What do you think about my theories? :D
P.S. I know some of you are wondering what happened to the giveaway! I haven’t forgotten :) I got your entries and will announce the winner soon.