HOW AM I STILL SINGLE AT THE END OF ANOTHER YEAR?
Did you start the year off believing and hoping that this would be The Year of The Rock a.k.a the engagement ring? And yet it hasn't happened?
For some of you, it is almost unbelievable that you are STILL single. Like, how could this happen again? And you ask yourself how the year could have gone by so quickly and you didn't even have a toaster on your case this year?
It's crazy, right? And this festive season doesn't help because there are parties, particularly weddings, to attend where you'll see lots of lovebirds and you'll ask yourself how they were able to find love?
Let's talk about this in a bit of detail. I have a few questions to consider if you were going to do a "Year in Review" to figure out why you're still single at the end of yet another year:
Did you meet any new people this year?
Have you been fearful and afraid this year?
Did you focus on yourself this year?
Did you hide your single status this year?
Did you actively pray about finding love this year?
Did you stay true to yourself this year?
There could be other things you did or didn't do this year but these are just a few to consider. Be objective and honest in your responses so you can figure out how to look ahead.
Yes, it's the end of the year and you're still single but as you reflect over the year, think about what you could have done differently. Many times when things aren't going as we planned, we like to attribute it to external factors but many times, the real issue is us - our behavior, attitude,and mindset. And if we can change some of these things, we might start to see the kind of results we've been looking for. Many people think that finding love is not their responsibility and that all they need to do is sit pretty and love will just show up. It turns out that that has supposedly been some people's story but if truth be told, you might find that just before love just showed up for them in a surprising way, they had a mindset shift or change in behavior or attitude that helped usher in the love that had been waiting for.
Remember what they say "Madness is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result". I'm not saying anyone is mad (lol) but you get the point!
And one more thing: If you haven't listened to the interview I did with Paul C. Brunson, the modern-day Hitch and the world's most influential matchmaker, before the year runs out, please do. It will open your mind to some amazing insights! I guarantee that. (See it below)
Let's talk. Tell me why you think you are still single. What were some of your dating challenges this year?
Compliments of the season!
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