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Guys Are Like Babies!
We’ve all heard this saying before, right? Guys, are like babies (babies are super cute and such a tremendous blessing), they just need a woman to nurture and care for them – rub their head, back, and/or feet (Eww, so maybe not the feet). Lol. Etcetera, etcetera. But I actually wanna look at it from another angle. This revelation, for lack of a better way to describe it, hit me years ago when I was chatting with this girl who it seemed was trying to tie her boyfriend down in the relationship.
When a woman is pregnant, it’s a mysterious, beautiful, miraculous thing. Fascinates me a lot! After nine months, give or take, it’s time for the baby to come. The doctor gives an estimated date of delivery and everyone waits. But guess what? That baby ain’t coming till the baby is READY to come. No matter how uncomfortable the woman is, that baby will come only when it’s ready. And I think it’s kinda the same with guys.
Have you noticed that some guys will just up and get married out of NO WHERE and everyone wonders where that came from! He just wakes up one day and says “I need to get married”. I think there’s a slight danger in that “rush to get married” scenario but that’s another story. I think it’s very easy to liken guys and their preparation and timing for marriage to giving birth (Lol. Kind of a funny analogy but it works!). So in those nine months (which can be any length of time in reality), they are preparing for that next phase in life (marriage for the guy, coming into this world for the baby). They go through all the developmental stages (getting finances in order, maturity, giving up their “bad boy” ways, etc.) and then they reach a certain age and place in their journey and feel the need for their help meet to continue the journey. Some guys can’t even explain where the sudden urge to get married and settle down comes from but it just hits them and they feel it’s the next step in life. I remember reading/hearing a while ago that with guys it’s not really about the whole “soul mate” thing but rather, when they decide it’s time to get married, they go for the next available sister that meets their requirements!!! Guys, is that true??? Anyways, back to the birthing process. Lol. Now, in all this time i.e. the developmental stage, the guy might have a girlfriend who he digs and what not and perhaps she feels he’s taking his sweet time in moving the relationship forward because he’s not proposing but truth be told, like the baby who isn’t ready to be born, he ain’t ready to get married. Period. And if women catch this, there will probably be fewer heart breaks. I think. Guys, help me out here. I don’t think guys need help knowing when they want to marry a girl (true or false guys?). If he isn’t moving as fast as you think he ought to be, well, perhaps he just isn’t interested in getting married or he’s unsure and needs more time. So I guess it would be up to the lady to decide if she wants to wait around for a potential break up or move on swiftly *sigh* Easier said, I know!
So, what’s the deal? Bottom line, I think guys are like babies that are yet to be born when it comes to getting married. That baby will take its sweet time to come but when it’s READY, ain’t nothing mama can do but endure and push as hard as she can! Lol (once again, funny analogy but you get my point) J