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"Can I Give Someone Your Number?"
This is the question your married friends ask when they start getting worried about your single status. Lol. They, with the best intentions, feel the need to help and so they scan through their list of friends and their husband’s list (or vice versa) and they realize there’s one brother that just might be right and so they ask: "Can I give someone your number?" Lemme just say, I’m not one for match-making in this sense because there is something about meeting someone this way that doesn’t really work in my opinion.
Let me explain: I like things to happen organically. You know, boy meets girl, boy is interested in girl, so boy tries to get to know girl, and it goes on and on from there. I feel like the pressure is ON when a guy is given a girl’s number. Everyone is aware of WHY the number was given and what is expected and I think that takes away the thrill of the chase for the hunter and hunted. Lol. There’s no guessing whether he likes you or not and if he will pursue (although the guessing bit I could do without sometimes. LOL). You know what I mean? Even if he doesn’t end up liking her or vice versa, it will take a certain level of maturity (or maybe it’s not even about maturity) for the whole scenario not to ruin the chances of these two human beings ever becoming friends. It would make things SO weird if it doesn’t “work out” or lead to more. So to the question “Can I give someone your number”, there’s usually a little more hesitation these days.
That being said, PEOPLE ARE NOT MEETING PEOPLE THESE DAYS!!!!!! Let me prove it. When was the last time YOU met someone new? Ask your friends the same question and you’ll see what I mean. I talked about Speed Dating a while ago and it seems people need to or maybe should start looking for unconventional ways to meet people. The only thing is that just like with the “Can I give someone your number?” scenario, it seems like going out of your way to meet people also takes out the fun. *sigh* Who knows! I think it’s important to try new things, be more sociable in general and like I always say not necessarily (just) so you can meet your spouse but more importantly to make your life more colorful!
What say ye? Do you think being match-made takes away the fun of chasing and being chased? Do you think people need to get over it and be open to as many options as possible and stop thinking too hard??
BTW, here are some interesting first dates I’m thinking would be great to try: fishing and/or visiting a farm. Don’t ask. #random