There’s a saying that goes something like this: “To get what you’ve never had, you have to do what you’ve never done” #word , right? Well, I want to challenge y’all and dare you, particularly the ladies, to try something new. I see a lot of beautiful, strong, intelligent, and godly women every day who are VERY single. We’ve established that being single is not a bad thing but if you desire to be married, it means that at some point you want to stop being single, yeah? I also hear and observe that a lot of single people (both guys and girls) are not meeting new people and the people in their space don’t seem to make the cut. Although, I told y’all what I think about that.
In any case, I want to encourage you to get out of your comfort zone. I keep stressing the importance of meeting new people and expanding your social circles and not just so you can get married but so you can enrich your life’s experiences. So, listen up, I wanna dare those of you whose lives tend to be a routine (that you hate) of go to work, Church, and home, cue repeat! I’m asking you to try some of the following things. I’m asking you to be slightly brave. Hehe. I’m asking you to live a little! And what’s the worst that can happen? I mean really? Here goes:
- Call that guy you like to say hi
- Invite your guy friend, who you kinda like, to hang out (drinks, a movie, etc.)
- Visit another Church/attend another Church’s event
- For those of you who don’t like weddings (how that is even possible beats me) attend the next one you’re invited to
- Smile back at someone (if you don’t already)
- Say hi first
- Call the guy first
- Attend a soiree, get-together
- Initiate conversation first
- Follow your friend to her office’s happy hour
Notice I’m focusing more on what the girls can do. Reason? Well, guys, na your work i.e. this is stuff y’all do anyways, for the most part, so I’m daring the ladies.
Remember, none of the things listed above means you’ve asked the guy out cos you know how we women get: “Why should I call him first???” Well, why shouldn’t we? Doing this stuff just means you’re showing interest. Most of you have thought of this stuff before but can’t imagine how or why you should do them. And if you’re afraid of a guy not responding positively/favorably, don’t be! Just live a little! Have fun! Be free to do what you want to do! Trust me, I know this stuff can be hard to do but just try J
So, ladies, I dare you o! Hehehehe. That feels good to say, I guess cos in some ways, I am daring myself! Lol. Most importantly, just have a good time through it all and please come back to share what it was like. Trust me, it will be liberating J
P.S. The stuff I listed doesn’t even scratch the surface of stuff you can do to get out of your comfort zone but you get the point ;)