Yup! I want to talk about SEX! The thing that everyone talks about but don't really talk about. I had a question the other day about sex before marriage and how honesty comes into play. Let me explain: Some people have decided that sex before marriage is a no-no for them. They have decided that they will save sex - intimacy, making love - for the wedding night and beyond and with this decision comes a lot of questions.
First of all, if the woman or man is a virgin (and yes, there are guy virgins out there contrary to popular belief), how do they know what to look out for in terms of compatibility if they aren't going to have sex before marriage? How do they know if they will be sexually compatible? In some regard, I think if you haven't tried something before, you don't have a reference point with which to gauge compatibility. Is that right? So, it shouldn't really be an issue. Some people would probably disagree. Plus, the beauty of not knowing what to look out for lies in the fact that they can learn and grow together (I know some of you are rolling your eyes right about now cos you don't buy that! LOL. Oh well.) What do you think? Can compatibility grow over time? Is it something that can be developed?
Let's dig a little deeper into this matter. Let me paint the scenario in detail: boy meets girl, boy and girl fall in love, boy and girl court (yeah, "court", that word we seldom use these days), boy proposes to girl and in all of this boy and girl decide to abstain from sex until marriage. Breathe, it actually happens! Lol. How honest do they need to be with each other about sexual issues. If they are not doing the do, what are some pointers to tell them that all will be well (if you know what I mean *wink*)? I had a lot of conversations about this with friends and the views were so varying, I was overwhelmed! Some people said the couple would need to trust God that they would be sexually compatible, others said when the couple kisses they'll know if all is well, others said do other things but don't have sex and you'll know, I said ASK! *covers face* I sure did! If you are going to spend your life with someone you should be able to ask any and everything, no? When I say ask, I mean ASK! Get answers for anything you are concerned about that. I also said there's gotta be a medical procedure that can be done to find out if all is and will be well. I think this is a very serious topic that is brushed over and no one really gets answers to.
So what do you guys think? Given the scenario I described, what does the couple do? Do they need to just trust and pray that they will be compatible and hope that they've both been honest with each other about any shortcomings they might have? Are there medical procedures/tests that can be done (No kidding. This is an actual question y'all). Let's talk about it!