- Marry your friend
- Marry someone with the same values
- Ask yourself if you’re REALLY ready to get married
- You must see potential in your spouse-to-be
- Don’t let gadgets destroy your marriage! Pay attention to each other and don’t be so easily distracted. Turn off the phones!
- Have “we” time
- Pray together as often as you can
- Take your wife’s financial advice. She stands to gain or lose if things do or don’t go right, so she will tell you the truth.
- Women, when you become successful, still be submissive.
- Men, when you become successful, remember the woman who stood beside you.
- Younger men, drop the “get rich quick” mentality. There is a process to success.
- Live within your means
- Live where you can afford to live!
- You must look attractive. Don’t let yourself go!
- Sex has to be mutually satisfying
- Let your spouse know how you’re helping relatives.
During the Q & A session, someone asked a question that REALLY got me thinking. Her question was “how do you know if you’ve married the wrong person”? The gist of the response to the question was that if your values don’t align, it’s the wrong person. This made me think and I asked my own question, which was “how do you define the wrong person”? Now, the reason I asked was because it SEEMS people nowadays simply up and get out of marriages because they are not “working” (excluding domestic violence reasons) and that was my point! Is it that the person is the “wrong” person or could it be that the relationship isn’t working because no one is putting in the work required to make it work. I’m thinking that perhaps there are a lot of problems in marriage that can be resolved (maybe not so easily) but couples decide the problems are not worth the work so they walk away instead, which would mean it’s not really about a person being “right” or “wrong”. Is this reasoning a possible explanation???
Everyone hopes and prays they marry the “right” person but if they become Mr. or Mrs. Wrong post the wedding, how do you define the “wrong” person they’ve become? How come they weren’t wrong before the wedding? Or were red flags ignored? How do people marry the “wrong” person who was once upon a time the “right” person? Is it really about someone becoming “wrong” or is it about how much work is being put into the marriage to ensure that things stay right?
What do you guys think? How do you define the “wrong” person, if you believe there is such a person?
*If enough of you insist, I might share what she said ;)