What Men Want Women to Know!
Hey y'all! So, we know men and women speak different languages. That's pretty clear from our experiences, yeah? To love each other better, we really need to understand our different communication styles. We are told to "seek first to understand and then be understood". So, ladies it's time to understand the men and where they are coming from. I spoke with some of my friends to help us out and here's what they had to say!
“Our egos are bigger than our brains and more delicate than eggs” – Emeka, 33
“We communicate differently. Accept it and work with it. Guys seem to understand this. Ladies seem to stay frustrated. Stereotypical expectations – money, cheating, etc. – provoke stereotypical responses” –Sam, 20-something
“Women need to understand that while men may generally not be as emotionally aware as women, we are still very emotional, just with a different emotional orientation” – Oluwatoyin, 29
“Men are actually very simple creatures. Feed ‘em, love ‘em, nuture ‘em, and if it is the right man, he ain’t going nowhere. Also, not everything has meaning. For women, everything has meaning” – Soji, 29
“When you meet an honest, sincere guy, don’t treat him like a liar just because you have experienced several vagabonds” – DL, 30-something
“Men are mortals” – Olufemi, 29
“Be honest; say what you mean and mean what you say. The head games are enough as it is. So if something is wrong and the guy comes to ask you what the problem is, tell him. He will not magically figure it out. If you say nothing, he will leave you be, but don’t expect to come back later and be upset because he didn’t ‘figure it out’” – Sims, 29
“I want women to know that we also get emotional” – Banji, 36
“Guys need time i.e. time with male friends. So don’t make it an issue” – Umar, 27
“Men need support” - FAB, 34
“When a guy loves and is vulnerable to you, the words you say to him can damage his self-esteem, no matter how strong he appears on the outside” – Bemyoda, 28
“Please be real. The more natural you are the better. We are not as calculative as you think and expect. And truly just help us out, say when we upset you, we can’t read minds and are not that smart” – Tobi, 26
“Most guys like women who know how to listen” – Patrick, 28
“Women need to know that all men are not the same and you need to see them as individuals and not through the lens of past negative experiences with other men” – Olisa, 30-something
Other men reading this, please add your 2 cents if you can! Thanks!
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As a woman reading this I must say I have been enlightened. These are most of the things my boyfriend tell me and i used to think it was just him being strange. But in the mouth of two or three witnesses....... So yeah we girls need to change some of our ways.
ReplyDeleteDo you know that in recent times, I have been reading so many responses from men and it seem that my eyes are just opening to things I always thought I knew...!
ReplyDeleteAnd I agree with them! Why do women play games?? He is hurting me, he doesnt know it, but I expect him to know. And when he asks whats wrong because he is obviously clueless, I go 'nothing' and if he takes that jsut as I said it, it becomes a problem...sigh...is he a magician?? I agree the games should stop jo! (ok, maybe easier said than done, but mehhhnnnn! Life would just be so much easier jare!)
lol men sure think differently from women. very interesting.
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Just as Olufemi said, "men are mortals". We have feelings. We have flaws. We cant read minds; we are just like you, only alil stronger.
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